Another year older, another year wiser (hopefully), drum roll please! Cue the balloons, confetti, and the mimosas. Isn’t that what is typically expected on your special day? That in spite of the incessant rain that we are experiencing for the last two days the clouds will still part and the sun will shine directly down on me to say, “HEY THERE TODAY IS YOUR DAY & YOU ARE INVINCIBLE!”? But No. In fact today is exactly the opposite. IT IS ANOTHER LOCKDOWN BIRTHDAY.Another day to be grateful for everything we have going for us and Counting our blessings that we have made it so far untouched by the impending doom (read as COVID-19 and also *touchwood*)
Truth be told, I’ve actually been struggling with this birthday A LOT. I actually feel quite embarrassed even writing about it. While most women (especially those in the public eye) write about getting older in a positive light, I am feeling a bit down. I’ve suddenly crossed over wellinto mythirties, and while there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with this number, it represents a passing of time. It also represents the undeniable truth that I can no longer pretend not to be “adulting” anymore and have to actually start practicing it too. I belong to the category of people who LOVE their birthday. I always have. Who wouldn’t love one day a year that is your day? It’s the day other people celebrate your life with gifts and hugs. Two of the best things in life, if you ask me. I don’t just love my birthday; I love to celebrate and make other’s birthdays special too.
But it’s a new age and unexpected circumstances,and the one thing that the pandemic has taught us is to take a tally of all your beautiful years and realize how blessed you have been. So thank you ever so much for being a part of this amazing journey and for all your love and constant unconditional support.
A few lessons I learned that helped me grow & become a better version of myself are these:
- Never stop learning. Just because you finished high school doesn’t mean that the learning stops there. The most successful people are those who are the first to admit they don’t know everything because they are always willing to learn.
- Take a leap of faith, cuz even if you fall, it’s a failure only if you don’t get back up. And it is always better to have tried rather than wish you had.
- Coffee is essential for life to even begin each morning.
- Love hard. With your whole heart and without conditions or reasons or excuses
- Learn to love yourself.You do you. Happy mamas make happy babies
- Make your better half your highest priority. You won’t like your spouse every minute of every day. But you do have to love them every minute of every day. It is easy to have a wedding. It’s the marriage that is the tricky bit. A good marriage is a marriage built on love. A great marriage is also built on love as well as two people who pick each other over everything and everyone EVERY SINGLE TIME.
- Find your tribe in every walk of life. Your husband can be your best friend, but he’ll never be your best girlfriend. Chances are he doesn’t care about what color nail polish you wear or what post did better on Instagram or why the little one is not doing enough potty (even if he pretends he does) We girls were created to be emotional and relational, which are beautiful things. So sometimes we just need the right tribe to hear you out.
- Be vary of who you invest your time and effort in. Be choosy who you allow into your heart cuz at this ppoint in life being choosy is a good thing.
- When you look bad, you’ll feel bad. Taking care of your body and appearance lift your spirits and your confidence.
- It’s okay to not be the best. This one is a daily inner struggle for me. When I do something, I want to be perfect regardless of what it is. So learning to take a step back and breathe and let yourself know its okay to not always have it all figured out is a work in progress.
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